2. GET HELP!
1. How long have you put up with it?
2. Who can you change?
3. What do you want from your life?
Don’t waste your life! Hurry! Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
(2 Corinthians 10:12, KJV)
Comparison inched its way into my life when I was in my early teens. I had one friend that was my idol. She had the perfect figure, you know, the kind in the 70’s where she was a #10. She rode my bus. And it seemed like every weekend she hit the mall because on Mondays, the fashion queen herself had on a brand new outfit.
Then there was Jane in high school. She seemed to get an A+ in English, in grammar, in vocabulary, in Algebra. I doubt she ever studied.
Then there was Kelly at church. She knew the Bible and oh, so well!
So who didn’t I compare myself to?
Yet, where did the comparing get me? It sowed in me an addictive thought pattern and an A+ in low self-esteem. And this is not to make an excuse for my sin of comparison, as it was sin. But I had an elevated sensitivity to comparison for many years.
I looked over at others life as a gauge. Mentally, I observed, listened, like the silent observer, yet all the time spinning questions. What was wrong with my then marriage? Why was it not going forward? I couldn’t put my finger on the answer and I had a sin stronghold of comparison. It was sinful and sin filled!
By the time I got to my 40s I was sick of this sin. It left me mentally worse off. When I looked at my BFF’s life, which was pretty darn good, I knew the sick game of comparison could destroy our friendship.
Convicted, I chose to stop comparing. Then I read, For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
My aim was to become a wise woman, so I chose to compare myself to the Word, God’s standard. So whenever I began to compare my life to someone else’s today, I STOP! I pray blessings for them. Try it on!
If you long for someone to understand you, sow this verse to the chambers of your heart!
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Be blessed today. God Understands YOU!
Thank you to women that added to my list!
They are a gift from God. Enjoy them! Love them! Surrender them! Embrace life with them or without them.
THIS LIST IS based on my knowledge and insight that I have learned over the last 45 years of my life. I have been involved with women all my life, with sisters as family members, then in my career as a teacher, involved in women ministries in my church, led and attended many Bible studies with women, coach training with women, and coaching women. I have heard women’s stories for many years but as a Life Coach the last ten years. I have heard expectations (realistic and unrealistic) of women friendships, the blessings, and the challenges.
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I had the opportunity to visit with a 28 year old blond, sweet, single, female nursing student, on a flight from Minnesota to Denver. Our conversation went from the reason of our trip, to jobs, family, and on to our favorite authors and Bible studies.
In time, our topic turned to that of relationships, especially with men. We talked about how do you know who to date? And what to look for in a great man?
This blog post idea is birthed from that conversation. Yet, I have coached women on this topic beforehand. On Friday I will post a list about what to look for in a healthy girlfriend friendship, woman to woman.
THIS LIST IS based on knowledge and insight that I have learned over the last 35 years of my life. I have been involved with women all my life with sisters as family members, then in my career as a teacher, involved in women ministries in my church, led and attended many Bible studies with women, coach training with women, and coaching women. I have heard women’s stories for many years, but specifically as a Life Coach the last ten years.
I have heard expectations (realistic and unrealistic) of marriages and the blessings and the challenges. I also have a vast knowledge of men who portray themselves as caring, charismatic, loving, sincere to other women and men, yet to the woman they marry, they’re none other than controllers and abusive. ( I also know women can be abusive as well.)
Abuse is growing . So ladies, be wise. Devour good books on God, growth, healthy relationships, and the Bible.
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4.21.17 Darlene is passionate about helping women find their purpose. She is skilled at helping women set goals and follow through. Her passion for life is evident the moment you meet her. Darlene’s “no nonsense” approach is direct yet loving. Rachael L.
At one time in my life I lived with a daily diet of doubt. There was so much chaos, change-ups, turbulence, and uncertainty in the home that I began to doubt God heard my prayers, since they were not answered (my way).
For example, I was told something would occur but it rarely came to fruition. Doubt cast. Change ups were the norm. Follow through rarely.
If you live in an environment of abuse, you wonder who is telling the truth and who do you trust?
For me, I put my hand on my Bible one day, and said “God you are either real or not. And I am banking my life that you are real and what you said in this book of yours is true. I will trust you are telling me the truth, since you are Truth. “And then I began to add verses into my heart by the day.
I doubted He heard.
I doubted He cared.
I doubted He would help me turn my life around for good and that He would come through for me.
Coaching women (over their cell, skype, or face to face) that are stuck in toxicity to discover freedom to live out their life purpose.
Facilitating a 2-Day strategic lifeplan this week.
He provided beautiful weather, safety, food, good health, a cell, emails, hugs, tears, words of love and in many many other ways. God shows up. Expect! Dig into the Word to begin with!
2. Then look up and pay attention to see Him at work in your life! He is alive and wanting you to want Him. Take on the day dear friend. Love to hear from you. Contact me at Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com
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Women want something or someone that’s the same, stable, constant, and changeless. Yet, there is only one true source where true solid security comes from. Everything else in life will change. Everything.
Whether divorce or death. Cancer or car accidents. Jobs or joblessness. Money or no money. True security is found only in Jesus. It’s knowing and anchoring yourself to Father God who is changeless.
Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today, yes and forever.”
How’s that to be a faithful Father?
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Completing my speaking topic to women in church leadership, I collected their written responses. Women had jotted down descriptive words of the needs of their heart. With sadness, I prayed silently for the woman who had written, Who cares, what difference does it make? Tucking her answer away I gathered the rest.
As I drove home, I recalled the women’s faces. One face stood out and it wasn’t the beauty, but the volume of sadness and despair written on her countenance. Maybe, the note belonged to her. If so, my heart was knit to a kindred sister.
My response to her question, Jesus cares. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you and me. He cares, Jesus cares.
Women get stuck in the feelings of hopelessness and despair, creating anxiety. Whatever the issue, God desires His care to outweigh her anxiety.
Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7 NASB
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