One Purposeful Prayer
Enable Me, Lord, to Shift—from feelings of “Who cares?”
… to knowing He cares
Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7 NASB
Completing my speaking topic to women in church leadership, I collected their written responses. Women had jotted down descriptive words of the needs of their heart. With sadness, I prayed silently for the woman who had written, Who cares, what difference does it make? Tucking her answer away I gathered the rest.
As I drove home, I recalled the women’s faces. One face stood out and it wasn’t the beauty, but the volume of sadness and despair written on her countenance. Maybe, the note belonged to her. If so, my heart was knit to a kindred sister.
Brent Curtis and John Eldredge state in Sacred Romance, “to lose hope has the same effect on our heart as it would be to stop breathing.” The woman I recall was about to drop out of life. Have you ever been that close to being a drop-out? From life? I have.
Her heart shaped note is posted in my office. I write for and pray for women like the one who wrote it. I believe many other women are asking, “Who cares, what difference does it make?”
My response to her question, Jesus cares. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you and me. He cares, Jesus cares.
Women get stuck in the feelings of hopelessness and despair, creating anxiety. Whatever the issue, God desires His care to outweigh her anxiety.
I choose to believe, He cares. I know He cares. You see, I too could have written that same note years ago, Who cares, what difference does it make? Living in a painful existence in the house on the hill only Jesus saw behind every door of my home. I chose to cast my anxieties onto Him, the truth, Jesus cares.
Name one area of your life you are anxious about.
Will you choose to cast that anxiety upon Jesus?
Jesus cares, name where that is evident in your life today.
“Lord, I have said, “Who cares, what difference does it make?” Enable me, Lord, to shift from carrying anxiety to cast it upon you, He cares. Thank you, Lord. Amen.”
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Enable Me, Lord, to Shift—from living in the miry clay of doubt
… to standing on the solid rock
He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay,
And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm.
Psalm 40:2 (NASB)
Where to begin? Something needs to change.
Women’s lives are loaded with doubt, disappointment, despair, and unanswered prayer. It slings her into the land of “why” sucking her into a miry mess of mud. Taking a step forward from the heaviness of “whys-ville” seems impossible. Then another disappointment plops at her feet flinging her backwards into the arms of doubt, is God for today’s woman?
For years this woman may have done life at full bore, the doer and fixer of much. Roles may include daughter, wife, mom, employee, step-mother, boss, home manager, relational controller, party planner, tech wiz, church volunteer, maintainer of most, and the “all-to-gether” super woman. Within the walls of her home she juggles activity and assignments, stuff and strife, as her soul shrinks.
The layoff, missed mortgage payments, a child’s learning issues, a mother’s health crisis, cancer scare, and the long—time unanswered prayer sends her to the pit with her feet weighted from the muddy mess of life’s issues. Her mind chatter tosses and turns as she voices, “Is He real?”
Life in the pit stinks. She questions, how long can I keep-on pretending I believe in God?
Finally, the truth is exposed. She doubts God’s real. She doubts God hears. She doubts if He cares. She doubts, just like Eve.
To make a shift, truth must be at the throttle of our mind. Choose a verse. Own the Word. Consume a verse as your daily diet with one practice step at a time. He empowers and enables you to shift from the miry clay of doubt to the Solid Rock of Truth as you look to Him. Try Truth out.
Name an unanswered prayer.
Do you doubt God?
Can you name one Solid Truth you can sow into your mind to shrink the doubt?
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I want to share two special friends with you. They have given me permission.
I have known Connie and Phyllis for over twenty years. We met when they were looking for a new church. I was happy to learn that they loved teaching, especially women Bible studies. They jumped right in at church. I recall sitting in their class and learning about the book of Genesis. Connie taught. Phyllis led in music.
If you were to meet either lady you would see a sparkle in her eye, a smile on her face, and you would know that there is something different about her.
In the last several years their life has taken a turn, a hard one at that. Connie has been diagnosed with Parkinson and myasthenia gravis. Phyllis has taken on the caregiver’s role.
Watching them travel down this road has been a true test that God does help in times of trouble. They’ve faithfully turned to God for direction, clarity, and wisdom as their lives have shifted to a different rhythm.
For Connie, a retired P. E. teacher, Parkinson has been grueling. Think about that, a woman that taught children about movement and sports, now God has allowed her body to be touched with Parkinson’s and myasthenia gravis.
Phyllis has been retired from years of working as an administrator in the trucking industry. She worked in just about every phase of it, from dispatching drivers, to billing, to the claims department, to the dock, and finally settling in the customer relations department. All involved working with customers and hopefully each customer was satisfied.
Now, Phyllis shifts and put her strengths and talents into action, such as planning and developing Con’s care steps. It’s truly inspiring.
Both women love the Lord, dig into their Bibles, care about their families and friends and have learned much about surrendering to the Lord. Yet, both women have wrestled with the limitations Parkinson has placed upon them.
The hardest for Con has been missing activities and not seeing family and friends at church. Yet the way she fights off self-pity is being proactive. She sends off hand written notes to her friends and family members or calls to encourage them on. And she loves praying by coloring. (see her picture)
Phyllis refuels by being outside. She loves working with wood and keeps the home front going. She grieves for her dear friend, yet knows a positive attitude will help her mind set while she entrust herself back under God’s hand, He is in charge and present.
I love how Phyllis has changed things up in their life to keep stepping forward and invite good things.
No longer do they take long road trips, instead shorter change-up road trips to the doctors and back.
No longer can they grab their fishing poles and head to the row boat, instead Con slowly walks to the dock and views the lake. She sucks in the fresh air and keeps on growing in the attitude of gratitude.
Likewise Phyllis steps outside their country lake home surrounded by tall pines and lets out her sighs of grief. But rejoices that they have such a place to live, de-stress, and yet be.
What impresses me is that both women are pushing forward to know, see, and understand what God has for them in this illness, and still learn how they can make a difference.
1. They have impacted Doctors, nurses, and friends in Florida.
2. In Michigan they have touched family and friends as well as doctors and nurses.
3. They have made heart to heart connections with the nurses and care workers that have entered their home.
4. Con’s prayers are answered, “The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much” (James 5:16b, NASB). I have seen her prayer book. It includes her great-nephews, niece, her family, friends, and herself. We have witnessed God answering her prayers: from a Doctor’s office calling her, a tree cutting estimate being low in price, a new doctor taking her on as a patient in Michigan, and on and on go her answers to prayers.
5. Phyllis is making a difference in the Care Givers Support Group.
6.They have impacted my life. My list is long. A big one is that they have served as two of my advisers for Hearts with a Purpose and are prayer warriors.
Two women living out their life purpose, right in the midst of what God has allowed. Reaching forward to all that God has called them to. May we likewise, be inspired to face whatever touches our life with an attitude such as theirs.
What challenging situation has God allowed in your life?
What do you believe you are to learn from that?
What do you need to let go of because of the new situation?
Are you desiring more clarity for your life- with some JOY?
Are you sick and tired of your stinky thinking?
Are you tired of trying to figure out your thoughts. Which is God talking to me and which is the lies I believe?
Learn the difference between Shame based thinking vs. God convicting us.
Women get tied up in these two. They wonder who is talking?
Don’t be bent over by lies, the truth will set you free.
God is for you, true! Shame is not. Get rid of the lies!
I would love your thoughts. I am writing Re-frame Your Mind today.
As the unknowns increased it was crucial I reframe my mind to Truth. I had to continue
to grow peace. Shrink fear and anxiety for a healthy mind set. I wanted my thoughts to
be under God’s hand. I was stopping many outward steps which were never
acknowledged, affirmed, even when I tried harder to please. It was a dead end. It only
exhausted me, enabling him. I needed to retrain my mind. My circumstances had not
changed. They were even getting worse as the toxicity was increasing in volume.
I needed to grow the list of truths in my mind to keep on going forward. I knew I had a life
purpose now. Read more of that in the Hatching of a Heart Chapter. So I needed to keep stepping in
the direction of my life purpose. So I asked myself, what else do I believe I need in order to live?
I had a relationship with God. I was really on my own, even though I was still at the house on the hill.
I took my Bible and drew a little frame on a side margin. Then I asked Jesus what does a woman need in order to survive? I came up with four words. What four do you think they are?
As the founder of Hearts with a Purpose, I coach and inspire women that are frustrated, angry, and alienated, because of toxic individuals so they can regain a sense of control and create a life of purpose.
I am a Professional Certified Life Coach, Life Purpose Coach ®, Recovery Coach, Grief-loss Coach, Coach Instructor, speaker, teacher and author.
I met Darlene Larson three and a half years ago at a conference where she stuck out to me as a warm, authentic and caring personality. Since her schooldays, Darlene has felt the calling to teach, and over the decades it has become crystallized: to women!
Spread over three years, I saw Darlene at an outing of her church’s women’s group, and at two women’s retreats where she was invited as the key speaker. The listeners really profited from the practical wisdom of what she had to share, as she has experienced severe loss herself and found real hope and comfort in the many promises of the living God of the Bible who has revealed himself to mankind in Jesus Christ. She interacted exceedingly well with her audience, by letting them make a personal input, or give a written-down feedback, or ask anonymously pressing questions which would profit everyone. I won’t forget the huge and beautifully formed stainless steel pitcher with an old-fashioned bowl to make her point! She was able to bring concrete examples of our daily life with which each woman could identify, and thus could be helped. She really has been given an open heart for all kinds of women, whether old or young, poor or rich, downtrodden or upbeat, insecure or seemingly secure, and help them to move on: out of “stucksville”, or wherever they are at! Her little five dollar coaching-card-packages with practical questions for special losses and difficulties get one started to think in/towards a more constructive and healing direction. Barbara 58 years old.