I had this plan. A laundry room makeover in one week.
Strip off the old wallpaper. And splish-splash with the new yellow paint. I would have a new laundry room look, a shiny green mirror, and welcome plaque all in place in a weeks time!
One tug on the wallpaper and one scratch to peel it back was all I needed. This wallpaper was not coming down! And if it was, it would not be without a fight.
First, my heart sank.
Second, my unrealistic expectations clashed with my vision. I had set myself up.
Third, I needed to rein myself back in and realign to reality. I was not going to frazzle my life up if the laundry room makeover was not all done in one week. Choose reality, Darlene, it’s a laundry room!
Lastly, I reset my time frame. So what if it took a month!?! Just get it done.
Do you ever do this with plans, dates, relationships, dreams, schooling, and or expectations of your kids? Set yourself up for disappointment because of unrealistic expectations?
I have spent hours in my laundry room peeling wallpaper off the walls. I have thought how this project is a lot like coaching women. I ask women questions to get at a layer of their life at a time.
It makes me think of the quote, “Sow a thought, reap an act; Sow an act, reap a habit; Sow a habit, reap a character,” by Charles Reade. As a coach, I have to start with the character that women say they desire or want to change. We start at the outward character. Then we get to the habit, and then to the act, and finally, to the thought life. It is a drilling to the root issue. Most of the time that thought is attached to a lie.
The lie is like peeling wall paper off a stubborn heart. The lie may have been stuck so well for years on a woman’s heart that it just does not easily come off. I need to ask tough questions to keep digging to the final layer of the heart issue. Once the lie or old wallpaper is exposed, it reveals the clean heart and or the wall is ready for new living.
What lie do you need to peel off?