Triangulation, narcissism, and domestic violence…what do these three have in common?
Triangulation, narcissism, and domestic violence!
And this was my cross that God allowed in my life.
This was a long journey for me to see the Truth in my story. I had been deceived.
I stood at my brother’s casket (06) and asked God, if that was me in the casket what would be my life legacy? I grieved and groaned. My answer, people would believe a lie about my life. I could not die in a lie. So God and I had work to do to unveil the truth of my story.
Discipleship Is Costly
“Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matthew 16:24-25, NASB).
So for me that means. Jesus is truth and I am one of His followers. I had to speak the truth.
If I did speak what would be the cost?
I wanted to live life so badly, the good life. And the pain was about to suck life out of me. I had to let go of the life of pretense.
My hardest hard was watching the pain of my three children. I had to deny my life, the pretense, a so-called Christian marriage, home. I had to surrender my three teens, yet truthfully, triangulation had twisted the relationships. I was asked by my counselor, are you ready to let go of what little influence you have left? I wept. What Mom in her right mind, would say, yes.
To be set free to live, I had to tell the truth.Before you read more, make certain you understand the terms.
I wrote on narcissism in an earlier blog…http://heartswithapurpose.com/what-is-the-first-thing-you-must-do-when-you-live-with-a-narcissist/read here.