2. GET HELP!
1. How long have you put up with it?
2. Who can you change?
3. What do you want from your life?
Don’t waste your life! Hurry! Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com
Thank you to women that added to my list!
They are a gift from God. Enjoy them! Love them! Surrender them! Embrace life with them or without them.
THIS LIST IS based on my knowledge and insight that I have learned over the last 45 years of my life. I have been involved with women all my life, with sisters as family members, then in my career as a teacher, involved in women ministries in my church, led and attended many Bible studies with women, coach training with women, and coaching women. I have heard women’s stories for many years but as a Life Coach the last ten years. I have heard expectations (realistic and unrealistic) of women friendships, the blessings, and the challenges.
Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to be coached to have healthy girlfriend relationships.
I had the opportunity to visit with a 28 year old blond, sweet, single, female nursing student, on a flight from Minnesota to Denver. Our conversation went from the reason of our trip, to jobs, family, and on to our favorite authors and Bible studies.
In time, our topic turned to that of relationships, especially with men. We talked about how do you know who to date? And what to look for in a great man?
This blog post idea is birthed from that conversation. Yet, I have coached women on this topic beforehand. On Friday I will post a list about what to look for in a healthy girlfriend friendship, woman to woman.
THIS LIST IS based on knowledge and insight that I have learned over the last 35 years of my life. I have been involved with women all my life with sisters as family members, then in my career as a teacher, involved in women ministries in my church, led and attended many Bible studies with women, coach training with women, and coaching women. I have heard women’s stories for many years, but specifically as a Life Coach the last ten years.
I have heard expectations (realistic and unrealistic) of marriages and the blessings and the challenges. I also have a vast knowledge of men who portray themselves as caring, charismatic, loving, sincere to other women and men, yet to the woman they marry, they’re none other than controllers and abusive. ( I also know women can be abusive as well.)
Abuse is growing . So ladies, be wise. Devour good books on God, growth, healthy relationships, and the Bible.
Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to learn more about coaching sessions that will empower you to have healthy relationships.
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Completing my speaking topic to women in church leadership, I collected their written responses. Women had jotted down descriptive words of the needs of their heart. With sadness, I prayed silently for the woman who had written, Who cares, what difference does it make? Tucking her answer away I gathered the rest.
As I drove home, I recalled the women’s faces. One face stood out and it wasn’t the beauty, but the volume of sadness and despair written on her countenance. Maybe, the note belonged to her. If so, my heart was knit to a kindred sister.
My response to her question, Jesus cares. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you and me. He cares, Jesus cares.
Women get stuck in the feelings of hopelessness and despair, creating anxiety. Whatever the issue, God desires His care to outweigh her anxiety.
Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7 NASB
Contact Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com for coaching. It’s an honor to hear women’s hearts and coach them toward their life purpose!
If pain was involved in a holiday as a child- look out- as some adults may try to overdo on the holiday or mask the pain.
When people STOP from a normal day of work, they may wrestle as they do NOT know what to do with the angst, or the vacant time, of an open schedule.
Let me coach you with three questions that might help you make it through this Memorial Day in a better way!
Do you fear no one will believe you?
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For ten years I have coached women. Can you relate to any of their statements?
I am so frustrated.
I cannot focus.
I want to live freely.
He tells me what I can and what I cannot do.
He tells me I should feel this way or should NOT.
He accuses me of things that are not true, like I don’t care and I don’t love him.
He tells me, I am crazy.
He tells me, I don’t need friends.
He tells me, it’s all my fault.
I ask you dear precious woman created in the image of God, who can tell you how you feel?
Who can tell you that you do not need people?
Who can tell you when you need to go to bed and when to stay up, when you are an adult?
If you need coaching with the frustration and anger I know it well, friend. Anger was a snare used on me and until I learned to die to the old ways of reacting in anger could I be set free.
And then God showed me my coaching skills. So I get this subject very well.
Walk in freedom. Embrace your stories, or they’ll rob you of life.
Contact me Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com
I have not met a woman yet that has not tasted rejection and/or needs to forgive someone in their life. So I thought I would re post this.
A few years ago I needed to let go of some internal heart garbage that wanted to poison and lodge.
I grabbed a 5×7 spiral bound notebook. It was loaded with pain filled lines from my life. Two names were repeated. They had left their cuts. I knew it was time to go read this aloud to the Lord, alone, in a surrender exercise.
Back to my personal walk. It was a yucky weather day. Grey, rainy, yucky, damp in-between the winter and spring weather. It matched the mood for this mission. The in-between-life. This was not a five minute walk. I had mittens on and Kleenex tucked in my pockets. I wandered down a tree lined wooded path at my dear friend’s property. I knew God would lead me to the exact spot to let it out and let it go.
I walked around the bend and there was another rock pile. But, this one was in the sunlight. There was growth with green grass. I told God, “I wanted the good stuff in my life like this pile high of it.”
Back at the house my dear friend chuckled when I told her how handy her rock piles came in. She said, “That good rock pile grows yearly; as they add to that from the potato field, after they pick up the stones. The rock pile that you left your wounds and forgiveness on Darlene is dead, as that it is in the shade and there is no growth, and no new rocks are added.”
Take stones or pebbles to a stream, a pond, a lake, and pour out your heart to God and pitch them in the water, letting go. Psalm 62:8
Take a pen and paper, write it all out, and then torch the paper after you read it aloud to God.
If you need to read it to a person that has died, write it and read it at their graveside. Then choose to forgive.
Take helium balloons, speak the pain out loud, and then let go of it.
Take regular balloons and a pin. Blow them up. Then read aloud whatever was done to you, pop it, and choose to forgive.
Do something physical, whether, running, swimming, climbing, jumping rope, yet make it your focus to let go of what is in YOU. It’s a choice. Will you forgive? Then you can go forward in life.
Let me tell you…God has multiplied my life with so many good things.