I thank God for using me, in-spite of me, and for discernment, insight, and wisdom, as I coach, speak, and teach to audiences of women.
6.20.17 Darlene has been such a gift to me! She walked beside me through a difficult season in my life and she never gave up on me. She prayed for me and coached me with love and gentleness
. By the end of our sessions together I had reached a place of peace and empowermen t that I’ve not known before. I am so grateful for her in my life! Julie Quinn.
6.14.17 Darlene (founder of Hearts with a Purpose) is an amazing woman of God with a heart for women! Her compassion
and love goes far beyond what my words could ever express. Darlene was our key speaker at Covenant Point Bible Camp in Iron River, Michigan. She had us captivated by her teaching and also encouragin g us not to just stay where we are, but what were we going to do about situations in our lives that would help us follow through with God’s purpose in our lives…ul timately glorifying God! I feel so honored to know and love Darlene! She is a 10 in my book!!! Janice M
5.19.17 Loved life coaching with Darlene. Very passionate about helping women to find their life purpose. Keep stepping! Stephanie
5.21.17 Darlene is an excellent life coach. She tells it like it is with gentleness and love. She has such a huge heart for women – all around really nice Jesus Girl! Cathy B.
5.2017 Thank you so much for this e-mail for Mother’s Day. I needed to hear this right now! Laurie
6.2017 I just finished reading your email that arrived today. It was an eye-opener for me as you concluded with your story of praying John 10:10 for your life…The story is long and I don’t really need to tell you all of it.However as I finished reading your blog, I realized John 10:10 is the prayer we need to begin to use daily. Thank you for your encouragement. Judy
6.1.17 I just read both of the devos (may come with a coaching package) you sent. I don’t know that I have read anything that I can relate to and that hits so hard. I’m going to reread later. Michelle S
4.21.17 Darlene is passionate about helping women find their purpose. She is skilled at helping women set goals and follow through. Her passion for life is evident the moment you meet her. Darlene’s “no nonsense” approach is direct yet loving. Rachael L.
” In the morning, O Lord, You will hear my voice; In the morning I will order my prayer to You and eagerly watch. ” Psalm 5:3
At one time in my life I lived with a daily diet of doubt. There was so much chaos, change-ups, turbulence, and uncertainty in the home that I began to doubt God heard my prayers, since they were not answered (my way).
For example, I was told something would occur but it rarely came to fruition. Doubt cast. Change ups were the norm. Follow through rarely.
If you live in an environment of abuse, you wonder who is telling the truth and who do you trust?
For me, I put my hand on my Bible one day, and said “God you are either real or not. And I am banking my life that you are real and what you said in this book of yours is true. I will trust you are telling me the truth, since you are Truth. “And then I began to add verses into my heart by the day.
Perseverance Pays OFF! And God does want us to learn that character quality, endurance!
I doubted He heard.
I doubted He cared.
I doubted He would help me turn my life around for good and that He would come through for me.
I already prayed,( like Psalm 5:3) says, but, I needed to change up the way I went into prayer.
I now believed and expected God to lead me and show me the way. When I got done praying I looked for His answers throughout my day…expectantly, anticipating, and He has led me each step to freedom’s way.
Coaching women (over their cell, skype, or face to face) that are stuck in toxicity to discover freedom to live out their life purpose.
Facilitating a 2-Day strategic lifeplan this week.
He provided beautiful weather, safety, food, good health, a cell, emails, hugs, tears, words of love and in many many other ways. God shows up. Expect! Dig into the Word to begin with!
2. Then look up and pay attention to see Him at work in your life! He is alive and wanting you to want Him. Take on the day dear friend. Love to hear from you. Contact me at Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com
There are four major things I believe women desire and I am certain there are more,
but these four I think run up to the top of her ladder of life.
I would love your thoughts on these four…Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com
Women want something or someone that’s the same, stable, constant, and changeless. Yet, there is only one true source where true solid security comes from. Everything else in life will change. Everything.
People, jobs, homes, bodies, children, you name it.
Whether divorce or death. Cancer or car accidents. Jobs or joblessness. Money or no money. True security is found only in Jesus. It’s knowing and anchoring yourself to Father God who is changeless.
Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today, yes and forever.”
And Malachi 3:6 in the NASB says,“For I, the Lord, do not change;.” Jesus is the same, constant, changeless, loving, faithful Son of God. Day in and day out.
How’s that to be a faithful Father?
Women are frustrated and maxed out!
Those are nice words to say anger is-a-brewing.
How do you handle anger?
Do you shut down? Or do you express with loud words and swearing? Or maybe you hide behind control to look like you are not angry, yet underneath you really are one angry woman (or man).
Anger is prevalent in women today. I was there once upon a time. Anger robbed me of MUCH peace, emotional clarity, calmness, and forward living. I had to stop and dissect what and where the anger was coming from.
- What drives your anger up?
- Is it chaos?
- Being ignored, dismissed, talked over? Fill in the blank _________________________
- Narcissistic partner abuse?
- Emotional abuse?
- What causes resentment to shoot up the ladder of your heart?
Did you know abusers like to see you react in anger? Then, when you choose to react in anger, it looks like you are the one that has issues.
Be wise! Some of the most controlling people are angry people, but, they may not even yell or raise their voice. Instead it is secretive, manipulative, deadly, and covert.
Need help from either passive or aggressive anger and you want freedom to be you and speak out? Contact Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com and/or buy
BUY…How To Confront W-Workbook and begin to step to freedom…http://heartswithapurpose.com/checkout/
Who cares, what difference does it make?
Completing my speaking topic to women in church leadership, I collected their written responses. Women had jotted down descriptive words of the needs of their heart. With sadness, I prayed silently for the woman who had written, Who cares, what difference does it make? Tucking her answer away I gathered the rest.
As I drove home, I recalled the women’s faces. One face stood out and it wasn’t the beauty, but the volume of sadness and despair written on her countenance. Maybe, the note belonged to her. If so, my heart was knit to a kindred sister.
Brent Curtis and John Eldredge state in Sacred Romance, “to lose hope has the same effect on our heart as it would be to stop breathing.” The woman I recall was about to drop out of life. Have you ever been that close to being a drop-out? From life? I have.
Her heart shaped note is posted in my office. I write for and pray for women like the one who wrote it. I believe many other women are asking, “Who cares, what difference does it make?”
My response to her question, Jesus cares. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you and me. He cares, Jesus cares.
Women get stuck in the feelings of hopelessness and despair, creating anxiety. Whatever the issue, God desires His care to outweigh her anxiety.
I choose to believe, He cares. I know He cares. You see, I too could have written that same note years ago, Who cares, what difference does it make? Living in a painful existence in the house on the hill only Jesus saw behind every door of my home. I chose to cast my anxieties onto Him, the truth, Jesus cares.
- Name one area of your life you are anxious about.
- Will you choose to cast that anxiety upon Jesus?
- Jesus cares, name where that is evident in your life today.
Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7 NASB
Contact Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com for coaching. It’s an honor to hear women’s hearts and coach them toward their life purpose!
One answer, know the TRUTH!
…but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part,
which shall not be taken away from her.
(Luke 10:42 NASB)
We read of Mary and Martha in the scriptures. The sisters demonstrated opposite tasks. We compare. Raise one up and beat the other down. Two women, one kitchen, one in charge, I would bow out too if Martha was on edge. I have been there, a Martha that is, and I didn’t even like my own company.
Martha was stressed and preparing the meal for Jesus. Mary chose to stop, drop, and sit at the feet of Jesus, but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her. Mary listened, received, and chose the good part.
Today women scurry here and there as well. It’s adrenaline addiction. A counterfeit way of life, covers the holes in the soul creating a deeper vacuum that eventually will need to be filled. Will you stop long enough, and allow Him to fill you?
I did, and allowed Him access to me. I dove into the Word, tutored, trained, and tested. I grew-up and stood up on the pages of scripture. Most women definitely would not have signed up for my life experiences.
This passage of scripture tugs on my heart lovingly. You see my own father said to me in my late teens, No one can take your education away from you. Of course he meant my formal education. Yet if he were alive today and knew the rest of my story he would sigh with sadness at his prophetic words and might add, or your life experiences, and then he would learn and understand why Mary’s posture won me over, but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”
Will you join Mary and me?
- Are you a Martha or a Mary?
- Have you chosen the good part?
- What one step can you do to make a shift to sit, read the Word, and listen to Jesus?
The good part requires you to show up.
OPEN up the WORD and learn TRUTH!
- BE COACHED to grow and be held accountable. Email Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com
- Come on over to Hearts with a Purpose on Facebook and join other women learning Truth.
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The road of life can be pain filled. At times you wonder if you can make it.
I grieved for many years. Yet, no one knew it. I kept it under wraps. I loved my privacy more so and I loved perfectionism too much. They both were false idols. I smashed them. I now understand that during my brother’s death, it is like God lanced my heart open to allow the buried pain of my story leak out.
So how do you grieve?
1. Admit it, you are hurt. You lost a loved one or something that you held precious or even a dream. Grief comes in many sizes and packages. So grieve and give yourself permission to grieve. If you do not grieve it may come back to bite you and you will get stuck in life.
Invite the Lord into your pain and ask Him to heal you. Time is needed here…months, years. But God does heal.
- Start thanking God for any good that can come from the loss.
I am a grief-loss coach.I know pain and death, loss, broken dreams and you name it. It bites. Hurts. Stings. Broken to pieces. Let God redeem. Restore. Replenish.
Pslam 23:1 The Lord is my shepherd…and He is so faithful to his children.
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What does fear do to our bodies?
I came upon this verse, “Men’s hearts failing them for fear…” Luke 21:26. It caused me to pause; especially after reading medical reports stating fear can lead to heart attacks.
Within a frame of three years I lost my father and youngest brother to heart attacks, and another brother underwent a triple bypass.
I visited my cardiologist for a checkup and was told, “My plumbing side of my heart looked good; yet, the electrical side wasn’t beating in sync.” He recommended medicine and a heart ablation. I didn’t have peace with either.
Instead, I determined to shrink my fear filled thoughts since I lived in a fear-breeding atmosphere.
Fear was all over the chambers of my heart knocking me down, robbing me of joy, peace, purpose, focus, and forward living.
So when fear came knocking, I purposely chose this verse to wage war against fear, For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. I made a decision not to open the door to fear and allow it to march in, sit down and start a conversation. This takes alertness and action.
Three years later I visited my cardiologist for a round of tests. Pleasantly surprised the Doctor told me my heart was beating at a normal rhythm. I knew who healed my heart beats, through His power, love, and choosing to keep a sound mind.
Only God knew the inner heart workings of my father and brother. For me fear had been a tag-along way too long.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (II Timothy 1:7, KJV)
The best recipe to shrink fear— Face your fears!
If pain was involved in a holiday as a child- look out- as some adults may try to overdo on the holiday or mask the pain.
When people STOP from a normal day of work, they may wrestle as they do NOT know what to do with the angst, or the vacant time, of an open schedule.
Let me coach you with three questions that might help you make it through this Memorial Day in a better way!
- What is one tradition with Memorial Day that you might want to revisit this Memorial Day?
- What have you NOT done in a long time as you did not have time, and now you have a day off and have waited for TIME?
- Can you do one thing, like read a new book, take a walk, run a race, sew an outfit, and/or paint a picture?
And the best recipe of ALL…FOCUS and give thanks for our freedom and to those that have fought for our freedom.
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Do you like yourself?
Do you love yourself?
Do you accept yourself, as is?
What can you do to begin to investigate your life if you don’t like yourself?
- You only have one chance here on earth to live. One!
Learn to love living in your own skin.
How you may ask?
Discover you, your strengths, your gifting and learn to take your life experiences, your dreams, passions, and dovetail with your purpose and be propelled into a life you love, living from the inside out!
Sample a complimentary 20 minute coaching time with Darlene, see what you learn in that short time about yourself. Contact today to set up a time, Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com