A woman asked me to address this topic. For some of you women reading this, it’s no issue for you to believe in yourself. But for some women reading this they have not been surrounded by believing mirrors in their life. They have had so much pinned on them by toxic people in their childhood, bullied or raped in high school, and maybe a college failure, and or into a marriage or career that has not gone as they had expected.
If you have not had others try to change you, dictate to you who you are, or pin their garbage on you through projecting, then I suggest you STOP right now, look up, and thank your Almighty Father God.
In my own journey I had believing mirrors all around me up until the age of 25 years old. Then I became the target of another person’s projecting. The medical definition of project from Merriam Webster’s Online Dictionary means, “to attribute or assign (something in one’s own mind or a personal characteristic) to a person or group.” So people try to pin their own thoughts, ideas, or issues on YOU! And many women and men have been tainted by other’s venom.
So we women have work to do to begin to believe in oneself. And take back our life to live!
And the best one that can help us believe in oneself is our Creator Himself! Enable Me, Lord, to Shift—from insecurity . . . to chosen
just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world… (Ephesians 1:4a NASB)
Remember the childhood game, “Red Rover, Red Rover, send Annie right on over?” Your name is shouted out, called out, desired, needed, and chosen from the opposite team. Blood rushed through your veins as you made a mad dash to the other side to break through their linked arms in order to capture a player. You grabbed the opposing team member and took them back to your side as the conquering victor. It was a “chosen” moment.
More than a childhood “chosen” moment is when a woman allows the truth into the core of her being. She is a chosen daughter of the King of Kings. Receiving this one truth is like pouring love cement down into her foundation creating a solid rock of stability.
Before He created the universe, the Lord Himself had His designer eye on you. He thought of you. And chose you to be in an intimate relationship with Himself, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world. He formed you. Can you receive this truth right into your heart? This heart shift is bedrock to getting away from grinding the gears of insecurity.
Whether it means getting picked for a worship team spot, a speaking engagement, landing a job, an adoption placement, a date, a girlfriend relationship, an invitation to a party, a coffee date, or a Bible study, women long to know they were chosen, desired, and invited. However, once you receive the truth deep within, He chose you, you will not be gripped by the hands of insecurity. Instead, you are cemented into His everlasting security.
Try taking a bubble bath and soak and saturate in this one truth, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world. I am hand-picked, cherry-picked, selected, chosen, and preferred, indeed. Would it not make a difference? Try it!
So how do I believe in myself? THREE TIPS!
- Open your Bible.
- Start with the Truth. The above verse, pray it, believe it, chew it, swallow it until you know it!
- Be coached to have the truth move from your head to your heart! Darlene offers payment plans! Be Coached By Darlene to discover all of YOU and LIVE!