Enable me Lord to shift—from comparing my life to others
… to compare my life to your standard, the Word.
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
(2 Corinthians 10:12, KJV)
Comparison inched its way into my life when I was in my early teens. I had one friend that was my idol. She had the perfect figure, you know, the kind in the 70’s where she was a #10. She rode my bus. And it seemed like every weekend she hit the mall because on Mondays, the fashion queen herself had on a brand new outfit.
Then there was Jane in high school. She seemed to get an A+ in English, in grammar, in vocabulary, in Algebra. I doubt she ever studied.
Then there was Kelly at church. She knew the Bible and oh, so well!
So who didn’t I compare myself to?
Yet, where did the comparing get me? It sowed in me an addictive thought pattern and an A+ in low self-esteem. And this is not to make an excuse for my sin of comparison, as it was sin. But I had an elevated sensitivity to comparison for many years.
I looked over at others life as a gauge. Mentally, I observed, listened, like the silent observer, yet all the time spinning questions. What was wrong with my then marriage? Why was it not going forward? I couldn’t put my finger on the answer and I had a sin stronghold of comparison. It was sinful and sin filled!
By the time I got to my 40s I was sick of this sin. It left me mentally worse off. When I looked at my BFF’s life, which was pretty darn good, I knew the sick game of comparison could destroy our friendship.
Convicted, I chose to stop comparing. Then I read, For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
My aim was to become a wise woman, so I chose to compare myself to the Word, God’s standard. So whenever I began to compare my life to someone else’s today, I STOP! I pray blessings for them. Try it on!
Who or what do you compare?
Are you so sick of it that you will ask God to help you break free of this sin?
When will you start this by?
Pray instead of compare.
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