I had this plan. A laundry room makeover in one week.
Strip off the old wallpaper. And splish-splash with the new yellow paint. I would have a new laundry room look, a shiny green mirror, and welcome plaque all in place in a weeks time!
One tug on the wallpaper and one scratch to peel it back was all I needed. This wallpaper was not coming down! And if it was, it would not be without a fight.
First, my heart sank.
Second, my unrealistic expectations clashed with my vision. I had set myself up.
Third, I needed to rein myself back in and realign to reality. I was not going to frazzle my life up if the laundry room makeover was not all done in one week. Choose reality, Darlene, it’s a laundry room!
Lastly, I reset my time frame. So what if it took a month!?! Just get it done.
Do you ever do this with plans, dates, relationships, dreams, schooling, and or expectations of your kids? Set yourself up for disappointment because of unrealistic expectations?
I have spent hours in my laundry room peeling wallpaper off the walls. I have thought how this project is a lot like coaching women. I ask women questions to get at a layer of their life at a time.
It makes me think of the quote, “Sow a thought, reap an act; Sow an act, reap a habit; Sow a habit, reap a character,” by Charles Reade. As a coach, I have to start with the character that women say they desire or want to change. We start at the outward character. Then we get to the habit, and then to the act, and finally, to the thought life. It is a drilling to the root issue. Most of the time that thought is attached to a lie.
The lie is like peeling wall paper off a stubborn heart. The lie may have been stuck so well for years on a woman’s heart that it just does not easily come off. I need to ask tough questions to keep digging to the final layer of the heart issue. Once the lie or old wallpaper is exposed, it reveals the clean heart and or the wall is ready for new living.
What lie do you need to peel off?
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A striking woman with a sparkling smile wheeled her luggage up to the hotel desk. “Life Coach” was embroidered on her bags. We were checking-in for the same writing conference.
Give me your best shot lady, I thought through my smile.
I cringe thinking about my resistant response to her vocation.
Little did I know what a precious gift, and friend, this woman would become. Over dinner that night she asked me a few questions and I found myself pouring out my soul over chicken marsala. What I found was an intentional question-asker, an empathetic listener, and a wise woman who cared about my heart.
Meet Darlene. My Life Coach.
Darlene has helped me get unstuck in areas that I was having difficulty navigating. I am grateful for the tangible benefits that have come from having a Life Coach. Here are a few of them:
1. Clarity: I feel like I am living more intentionally now that I am strategically dealing with the “stuck” areas in my life. Darlene’s pointed questions and tangible assignments help me move forward with precision.
2. Honesty: I easily pour out my heart as I admit my struggles and frustrations to my Life Coach. It is refreshing to be honest and to feel safe as I share.
3. Accountability: Having someone else ask me how I am doing and check-in regarding my forward motion is an important tool for growth.
I am more free, hopeful and confident as I learn healthy ways to deal with lingering hangups.
It was a delight to interview Darlene. View my video and learn more about this wonderful lady and how she can help you too.
I met Darlene Larson three and a half years ago at a conference where she stuck out to me as a warm, authentic and caring personality. Since her schooldays, Darlene has felt the calling to teach, and over the decades it has become crystallized: to women!
Spread over three years, I saw Darlene at an outing of her church’s women’s group, and at two women’s retreats where she was invited as the key speaker. The listeners really profited from the practical wisdom of what she had to share, as she has experienced severe loss herself and found real hope and comfort in the many promises of the living God of the Bible who has revealed himself to mankind in Jesus Christ. She interacted exceedingly well with her audience, by letting them make a personal input, or give a written-down feedback, or ask anonymously pressing questions which would profit everyone. I won’t forget the huge and beautifully formed stainless steel pitcher with an old-fashioned bowl to make her point! She was able to bring concrete examples of our daily life with which each woman could identify, and thus could be helped. She really has been given an open heart for all kinds of women, whether old or young, poor or rich, downtrodden or upbeat, insecure or seemingly secure, and help them to move on: out of “stucksville”, or wherever they are at! Her little five dollar coaching-card-packages with practical questions for special losses and difficulties get one started to think in/towards a more constructive and healing direction. Barbara 58 years old.