What is the first thing you must do when you live with a narcissistic person?
Face the truth. You can only CHANGE YOU!
You will not receive empathy from him/her. They can give kind words to others, maybe hugs too, and even do this in front of you. BUT, they will deny you emotional connection.
So the first thing to do for you, WAKE UP and realize that they cannot and will not give you empathy.
Remind yourself, your heart will not touch or connect with theirs. The only way it may, is if the narcissistic individual chooses to get help and only then, can they do the work to change themself.
But for you, stop trying harder and waiting for them to change.
The definition of a narcissistic person from the Mayo Clinic website is, “Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others.”
So strip that apart.
They love all eyes on them.
They will not have empathy.
Grandiose thinking – he/she thinks higher of themselves than reality.
Here is an example of no empathy. I stood at the funeral home with my siblings picking out my father’s casket, I heard, “At least be grateful you can pick out a casket.” Stunned and stung!
You may feel there is no way out for you and you are so stuck. Oh, I know that feeling, but there is a way out to the light and a life of truth. I have walked the steps. I have traveled far down the road through recovery. Now, I can help you. Don’t give up.
Once I realized that I would not receive empathy from the narcissist in my life I was cut free. I learned then to expect nothing back and did not set myself up to be disappointed.
So this is the TRUTH I began to apply… “Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23, NIV).
I recognized the truth of my life.
I took inventory, I could only change, me.