Do you second guess yourself?

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What do you do with second guessing yourself? Emotionally Abused Women

Where  does it get you?

How long do you allow it to win you over?

I know this topic. Women stuck in toxicity really have to fight to get out of it and break free. It can be done. I know! Check out the class to begin with. Or email me for my 2018 coaching packages! Email Darlene!

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Have you longed to be whole and going forward in life? But inside you feel so cut up, cut off, emotionally abused, fearful, and full of anxiety?

Maybe “a crazy maker” has led you to believe, “That you are the issue.” Discover how to break free of emotional abuse!

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How do I survive the holidays while living in toxicity or seeing toxic people?

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First, let me state, that the holidays can magnify toxicity!

Therefore, the pain ramps up for you.Seek Coaching. www.Heartswithapurpose.com

Do you need a toxic survival

First Aid Kit

for the holidays ?

Let’s review:

What worked last year for you?  What positive thing did you do?

What did not work last year for you?  Who can you change?  What can you change?

Be realistic, do you think it will be any different this year, if you have not taken any steps? 

If you need coaching to set up a proactive first aid kit to survive the holidays while living  in toxicity give me a call or email.www.Heartswithapurpose.com

I’ve walked in your shoes. I coach women in toxicity to freedom to discover their life purpose.

Four 55 minute coaching sessions over your cell or SKYPE is $360.00.  This is good only for the month of December. If you purchase by the 10th of December, I will send you my first book FREE, Enable me, Lord, to Shift, are you stuck in idle? Learn how to shift into Truth–and live!  Email Darlene!

Three respite options for women living in toxicity this holiday season!

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www.Heartswithapurpose.comA respite is a short break, temporary delay, a pause to regroup, catch your breath, feel safe, and be heard. And this respite is for those women living in toxicity. 

December 4th, 11th, and 18th. from 7-8:00 p.m. EST.  Call in to my conference line!

Discover how to make it through the holidays :

  1. A Mental SHIFT to choose joy while surrounded in abuse!
  2. A Mental SHIFT of determination to discover more of who you are!
  3. A Mental Shift to desire your life purpose!

Choose which best fits you: I do use paypal!

$25.00 for one respite support time.

$40 for two respite support times.

$60 for all three respite support times.

I know pain and abuse can ramp up during the holiday season. And I know trust is really really hard for a woman whom has been abused. But, try this out dear friend, trust me. I have walked this pain filled road and want to help other women make it out.

In each respite session  you will be heard, be encouraged, be affirmed, be taught, and leave with a verse of Truth to sow to your heart.   Email Darlene!

Ten tips to survive the holidays while in emotional pain.

Posted by in Abuse, Broken, Grief-loss, Toxic

Hi Friends,

I have done a few Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons and a few were very very painful and pain filled. So I love to encourage women in the holiday season.www.Heartsiwthapurpose.com

Here is what I have learned how to break the day or days up while living with  a lot of emotional pain and or grief loss.

  1. Give thanks for something all day long, look around, look up, and give thanks! Focus on what you have right now, right today, and give thanks!
  2. 20 minute walk outside. See that GOD is bigger than your messy painfilled story. HE is Creator of all!
  3. Place Truth around you as much as possible. See this card, someone sent it to me 10 years ago and I thought, okay, God had a plan with Mary’s life and her life was not picture perfect and boy did Mary, Mother of Jesus see and experience pain. God must have a plan with my life. So I chose to believe while living in a very toxic environment for over two decades, where I was ignored, that God had a purpose for me. 🙂 Hearts with a Purpose.Truth wins....www.heartswithapurpose.com
  4. Speak truth aloud.  When we say the truth aloud, we are feeding it back into our soul that  heals us, sets us free, and brings us hope. God’s Word is alive and active!Be Coached to discover your purpose and His plan....www.heartswithapurpose.com
  5. Pursue peace in your life. What brings you peace? A walk, lighting a candle, a good book, a hot bath, what? Just do it.
  6. Break your day down in small bite size pieces. Grief sucks a lot out of a person. You move slower as your processing skills have been short circuited.
  7. Turn music on to lift you up. Hope filled words.
  8. Turn the radio on to hear good engaging conversations or to your device.
  9. DO something you love to do. Make sure you protect time to just do it.
  10. READ the WORD…Psalm 139 would be helpful, (Vs. 1-6). “O Lord, You have searched me and known me.  You know when I sit down and when I rise up; You understand my thought from afar.  You scrutinize my path and my lying down,
    And are intimately acquainted with all my ways.  Even before there is a word on my tongue,
    Behold, O Lord, You know it all. You have enclosed me behind and before,
    And laid Your hand upon me.  Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it.”

If need be, repeat these steps often in one day… God does have a plan, a plan, a plan… TRUST!

If you need  grief loss coaching I am offering a special on Friday and Sat. the 24th and 25th of NOV. 10% off eight sessions of grief-loss coaching.

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How do you flip up the empty feeling for purpose?

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Here’s a slice of my story…

 

I was famished for connection. Truth be told for adult conversation. Yes, I was married but I lived in an emotional abusive marriage and was not invited into adult conversations.

If a conversation began it never concluded well. Nor was it unified in forward steps like a team. It was his way of putting a thumb on me. I felt humanly cut off in a marriage. Deserted and isolated.Do you feel deserted or isolated? www.heartswithapurpose.com

Webster’s dictionary states, “Loneliness is cut off from others, not frequented by human beings, and produces a feeling of bleakness or desolation.” Whew, not frequented by human beings like a vacant soul.

     Since no one conversed with me as an equal I shifted to what I could control in the home. I cleaned. I loved to have things in order so it was easy for me to whip through rooms, a whole house, a yard, and a list of organizational projects. After all, when there is a vacant relationship, one has time to invest in elsewhere. Yet my heart was craving some attention. And the projects got old, especially after years of doing. Plus the busyness camouflaged my heart. I longed to stop, drop, and really connect to the core heart issues of life. I was running out of steam and life was ticking on by. So I stopped with all the extra busyness!

       I had been seeking out a man for many years to converse with, God Himself. We had many intimate conversations. I prayed and asked Him to fill me up way up— with His presence. He took up residency within me. And I believed I wasn’t alone. I had the Holy Spirit, Jesus Himself living within me. After all He says … but you know Him because He abides with you and will be in you.

that is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it does not see Him or know Him, but you know Him because He abides with you and will be in you. (John 14:17 NASB)

Change up the bleakness, purposelessness, and invite the Holy Spirit to spread over and take over your empty feelings. God will fill the inner gnawing of connection, but we must allow Him access. Will you?Are you searching for freedom to be you

Read more in my upcoming Enable me, Lord, to shift books. 

 Learn more of my story, stay in touch, and how I can coach you
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How do I regain my voice after emotional abuse?

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Hi friends, do these words describe your life?

  1. Emotional painHow does fear stop you? www.Heartswithapurpose.com

  2. Stuck

  3. Fear is growing.

  4. Believe you have nothing to offer

  5. Your voice has been lost from abuse

  6. Ignored

  7. Overlooked

  8. Spoken over

  9. Crushed

  10. Thumb on

If you feel the majority of these fit you, then jump into this self-directed course about emotional abuse Take a self-directed Course to empower you if you are in emotional abuse and get stepping.

Love to hear your feedback. Touch base with me!

What is holding you back? www.Heartswithapurpose.com

Has God forgotten me?

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Has God forgotten me? 

I know that answer and it is  no, He has not. God knows you. God sees you. God cares.

So what do I do then? I feel God has forgotten me and my life is not changing for the better.

Change up the lie, that He has forgotten you to the truth. Read Psalm 139, ” O Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and  when I rise up;
You understand my thought from afar.  You scrutinize my path and my lying down,
And are intimately acquainted with all my ways” (v 1-3). 

God knows you. It’s a choice of shifting your thoughts to the truth.

I teach women to build a list of the truths (verses) that you believe in without a doubt. And begin to add to that list.

For example, for years I lived in emotional abuse.

That is when someone over a period of time and the same person continually devalues you.

Maybe the person doesn’t call you by name, doesn’t acknowledge you, or talk to you by inviting you  into a conversation.

And of course you are not asked to share any info as they want you to believe that you have nothing to offer. www.Heartswithapurpose.com What do I have to offer?

Plus they love to control, especially men or women that are narcissist.

They want to make all the decisions and you are to agree with them.

IF you go against them they just know how to make it look like it is your fault. You may begin to believe the lies about yourself. And over time you may feel like you are going crazy.

So where do you turn when you think God has forgotten you?

For me, I KEPT turning to God and to the Word…as it is truth. It is. God’s word works.

I knew this verse and I clung to it. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 states, “ Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”Do you know the truth? www.heartswithapurpose.com

I knew if I waited for God to show me each step to take and if I allowed Him to comfort me, He would use that PAIN or difficulty in my life to comfort others.

And dear one, why do you think, I have my own coaching business, speak, teach, and write on behalf of women? I get this pain. I get this question. I know God has not forgotten you.

Turn to Him. Receive one verse today. Let me hear what verse it is.Share with me! 

Another step is to begin to educate yourself on emotional abuse and if you think you are  in an abusive relationship purchase this self-directed class…videos, audio, and a 39 page E-Book by coach Cindy Tannehill and myself. Be encouraged and be coached from toxicity to freedom to discover your life purpose.Check out the class to purchase and hear more of my story!

What do you do when frustration, isolation, and emotional pain grow?

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Hi friend,

I wish I had known this answer many years ago.  And I am writing this from years of experience and reading.  I’m no Dr. but for years I did experience emotional pain.

What are your pain points? www.Heartswithapurpose.com
Pain Spelled in Tiles

But no longer and I am set free and very thankful. Now I can help others and coach them. So if emotional pain is growing inside you, get help. Seek a counselor or a coach is my suggestion! 

I learned there are two kinds of pain we have in life.

  1. Like the pain when I touch a hot burner…ouch! That is a protective kind warning  my body stay away, danger.
  2. The second kind of pain is the emotional kind that is inside of you. If that builds, get help. We are not meant to have all the inner pain. Not.
    1. Let me ask you, are you easily frustrated?
    2. Do you find yourself isolated in your home or others may intentionally isolate you emotionally? That is all the more reason to seek out  a friend, a counselor, a coach, someone to help you.

I love this verse in James 5:16, “Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. “

Let me share with you that sometimes that sharing is how you react in sinful ways. Also it might be what other people are doing to you or have done to you. That  my friend begins to break the power and control of the secret.

If you want to share why you are frustrated, isolated, or why the emotional pain is growing, I am here coaching women. Browse my site. read the blogs. Email me!

And if you are dreading the holidays then learn how to guard your heart for the holidays. I would love to have you join me. Hurry time is running out!

10 Tips with Toxic People, Grief and Loss during the Holidays!

10 Tips with Toxic People, Grief and Loss during the Holidays!

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Hi friends,Gift Yourself. Empower you...www.heartswithapurpose.com

Well tis that time of the year very soon!

You know most of us love holidays. But, I have learned over the years that not all holidays are great, fond, and wonderful. Especially for those that have toxic people in their life and then to be caught in their pathway. They can spit their pain onto you and others while it’s a holiday!

PLUS, grief, loss and transitions can suck us in too.

So let me coach you and challenge you and offer comfort. Let’s Work together!

 

LEARN 10 Tips to deal with Toxic People, Grief, Loss during the Holidays!

ONLY $77.00 for  4 –  hours of  teaching and coaching you for the holidays!

Valued at $360.00

Gift yourself! 

Experience a month of MORE peace in December!

Meet Monday, over my conference line, 

November 6th, 13th, 20th, 27th.

7-8 p.m. EST

 So easy to dial in, stay at home, yet feel connected and cared for with others that

understand this topic! What is holding you back? www.Heartswithapurpose.com

JOIN today!

What will you learn in this course?

  1. Learn how to set boundaries for you whether in grief and loss or toxicity!
  2. Learn how to guard your heart for you.
  3. Learn how to bring some joy into the holidays for you.
  4. Learn how to grieve when you need to.
  5. Learn how to say no when it is too much!
  6. Learn how to say yes even if you hurt a bit.
  7. Learn how to rediscover new joys this December!
  8. Learn how to make new memories for you.
  9. Learn how to shrink control of toxic people and also equip your emotions.
  10. Learn how to handle set backs this holiday season.

 HURRY contact Darlene today!