Sick and tired of the second guessing?
I hit that wall years back! I hated second guessing enough to walk out of it and change up to the Truth!
Now I coach women from it. This week two coaching clients said, “I second guess myself way too much.”
A bit of this story is in my first book of the Enable me, Lord, to Shift series!
Enable me, Lord, to shift—from my ways
to obey your commands.
I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes. I will hasten and not delay to obey your commands. (Psalm 119:59-60 NIV)
I sat on the plane in Orange County, California. Doubts, fears, and second-guessing scrambled me. Why get off the plane? Only three people in CA know I’m coming to be trained as a Life Purpose Coach® for Women. I haven’t met one. I won’t be missed. Wouldn’t it be easier to stay on the plane and travel around the US?
Second guessing causes us TIME. Wasted time! And often fear comes running in!
I was in the land of the in-between. God had called me out from teaching children to now coach, teach, speak, and write on behalf of women’s needs. Coach training fit the call. Yet, I was clueless as to how God was going to unfold this package of purpose. And that word, how, kept causing me to pause. But I knew I wasn’t turning back to teach children, I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes. I will hasten and not delay to obey your commands.
My life purpose of coaching women was my aim and my reason to keep getting me out of bed each morning and keep me alive. Viktor Frankl writes in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, about the horrific life in a Nazi concentration camp. He refers to the prisoners, Whenever there was an opportunity for it, one had to give them a why–an aim—for their lives, in order to strengthen them to bear the terrible how of their existence. Woe to him who saw no more sense in his life, no aim, no purpose, and therefore no pain in carrying on.
My terrible existence or how wasn’t in a Nazi concentration camp. But I was a prisoner living in solitary confinement in an emotionally toxic environment.
- Daily no acknowledgement
- Daily no conversation
- Daily no affirmation
- Daily no attention
- Delete Darlene
- Twin fears of, would anyone believe me and their response caused me to keep my mouth shut. Yet God is a God of Truth. And my brother’s early death jolted me.
Allan’s’ voice was silenced and not by his choice. But my voice had been silenced and by my choice—fear.
- Do you live in a terrible how existence, if so, name it?
- Do you second guess yourself?
- What is it you want more so than the second guessing?
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Frankl, Viktor E. Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press, 2006. P. 76.