6 Answers Why Life Coaching Works!

September 28, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Life Coaching, Life Purpose, Recovery, Toxic

Six Reasons -Why Life Coaching Works with Coach Darlene?

A woman speaks her heart’s desire in a shame free atmosphere.
A woman shares her pain, passion, and pitfalls in a safe spot.
A woman spits out her mistaken thinking.
I ask her the tough questions. Question asker!
I plant the seeds of truth. Seed planter!
I cast the vision after hearing her heart’s desires with passion and purpose. Then we set up steps to close the gap from her current life to the life she was meant to live with her purpose!

Clients said:

Thank you for reminding me that God loves me and that he has a plan specifically made, just for me. You were patient with me as we worked through my doubt, fear, insecurity, and finally surrendering it all to God. Identifying my God given spiritual gifts and how they compliment my strengths, has given me clarity, confidence, and courage to step out and follow God’s plan for me with much anticipation and excitement. I can’t tell you how good it feels to be stepping forward and getting out of a stagnant life. Thank you, again, for talking truth, in love, into my life and being such a blessing to me. Cora

Wow, I did it. The faceting room is 85% uncluttered. I am so excited. It feels really good. Thank you so much for hearing me and encouraging me. Barb

Thank you so much for the life coaching. I met you at a time in my life when I didn’t know what I wanted from the future. After the passing of my husband and my kids leaving home, I really had no idea what direction I wanted to go. You helped me to clarify my thoughts and determine what my strengths are. I now know that God has a plan for me and I am trusting in him to fulfill that plan. Thank you! Susan

You are a gift. LaRissa

By the way, I wanted to tell you that I watched your videos and enjoyed them very much! Finally, a BIG THANK-YOU for being willing to hear my heart! What an amazing gift you have! I am honored to be heard by you! BEV

What is stopping you? Take a step, your life is zipping by. Email!

What does a woman want?

June 16, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Abuse, Enable me, Lord, to shift, Life Purpose, Living Freely in Truth

There are four major things I believe women desire and I am certain there are more,

but these four I think run up to the top of her ladder of life.

She desires:

Security
Love
Help
Companionship

I would love your thoughts on these four…Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com

Women want something or someone that’s the same, stable, constant, and changeless. Yet, there is only one true source where true solid security comes from. Everything else in life will change. Everything.

People, jobs, homes, bodies, children, you name it.

Whether divorce or death. Cancer or car accidents. Jobs or joblessness. Money or no money. True security is found only in Jesus. It’s knowing and anchoring yourself to Father God who is changeless.

Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today, yes and forever.”

And Malachi 3:6 in the NASB says,^“For I, the Lord, do not change;.” Jesus is the same, constant, changeless, loving, faithful Son of God. Day in and day out.

How’s that to be a faithful Father?

Craving more from life then chaos from abuse?

May 22, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Abuse, Broken, Life Coaching, Life Purpose, Narcissism, Toxic,

Are you craving more from life then CHAOS?

Tired of the crazy makers and confusion that brew from abuse?

Are you confused how to handle a toxic relationship?

Do you care so much that your heart hurts?

Do you fear no one will believe you?

JOIN a Summer Course that will help you begin to step!

Learn how to take back your life.

Join me, as I teach women how to walk away from toxic influence.

Learn how to

Class ONE – Step back. Assess your situation! Breathe and share with a Coach that has walked the journey! I hold women’s hearts carefully and lovingly.
Class TWO- Step up. Learn words to use and NOT to use. BE bold. Gain confidence!
Class THREE – Stand your ground. Grow in WHO you are!
Class FOUR -Step out. Who in your midst can help you? Let me teach you and coach you to what that looks like.
CLASS FIVE – Step forward.

Be taught by a teacher and life coach that is an expert in the field of toxicity or abuse.

What will happen if you do not begin to take action by the end of this month? Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to save your seat today!

Receive instruction, abuse insight, coaching class time, one private coaching email after each class, curriculum material, and learn how to BEGIN to walk away from toxic influence. Enjoy this mental and emotional life saving course, on sale for more than 60% off, $ 227.00.Valued at $640.00.

Class time is June 12th. 26th. July 10th, 17th, 24th, 7:00 p.m.- 8:00 EST Meet over a conference call for class! Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to save your seat today!

What are signs of emotional abuse?

May 19, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Abuse, Broken, Narcissism, Toxic

Self-Checklist to evaluate if you’re in an emotional abusive relationship!

This is only a short little check up.

Answer yes or no.

Do you feel physically safe in your home?
Pain Spelled in Tiles
Do you feel emotionally safe in your home?
Do you feel mentally safe in your home?
Is your marriage and or relationship moving forward?
Can you come and go as you desire without too many issues?
Can you share your feelings in your own home and they will be honored as your feelings?
Is your voice heard in your home?
Is your voice listened to in your home?
Can you speak freely on the phone without criticism?
Do you have a positive sense of worth?
Can you get emotionally near your spouse?
Has your spouse hit you?
He follows through on what he says he will do?
Does he honor boundaries that you desire regarding him and women?
Do you have the freedom to ask him questions?
Do you have a say with the finances?
Can you complete conversations?
Are you relaxed in your home?
Can you use an agreed upon amount of cash without asking him?
Fear is not an issue for you?
If you tell him to do a simple thing, does he do it?
Do you believe you have something to contribute to society?
Do you believe you can learn?
Do you believe you can do things correctly?
He apologizes.
Do you have authority?
You have a lot of peace?
You experience little chaos in your life.
You have no internal pain.
You like yourself.

If you wonder what emotional abuse is read here...https://heartswithapurpose.com/what-do-emotional-abuse-and-narcissism-have-in-common/

If you answered no to most of these, how about a free 20 minute complimentary coaching session? Email today Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com This is just a little self evaluation!

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How can I change?

April 28, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Abuse, Broken, FEAR, Narcissism, Recovery, Recycle the Pain, Toxic

Apart from Me you can do nothing.

(John 15:5b, NASB)

I needed God to turn my life around. And He is known for switchbacks, just read the book of Esther. Or study the life of Peter, Saul then Paul, Abraham and Sarah, or the man that hung on the cross, Jesus.

My invisible umbilical cord was attached to Jesus, my Sustainer. But my abuser cast doubt repeatedly to drive a wedge between God and I.

I pressed that much more into Truth. And the Holy Spirit nudged me to the feeding trough of His Word daily, even when I didn’t feel God near. Lovingly and gently He went to work while I lived in an emotional abusive marriage for a very long time.

(READ the blog on what is emotional abuse.) https://heartswithapurpose.com/what-do-emotional-abuse-and-narcissism-have-in-common/

I loved my privacy and self-sufficiency above God. The idols and sin had to go.

Convicted, I dropped and bowed to Him. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Bitterness. Hatred. Jealousy. Self-righteousness. People pleasing. Perfectionism. Negativity. Criticalness. Fear GALORE. AND PRIDE. I confessed and let go.

Jesus heard it all and saw it all. I wept and waited for direction. I clung to Truth and echoed His words, “Apart from Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5b). Apart from Me you can do nothing. My life hinged on God being real.

Apart from God, spiritually, you’re an empty being.

Apart from God, mentally, you’re deceived.

Apart from God, emotionally, your feelings dominate.

Apart from God, physically, you veg in a mess of laziness.

Apart from God, relationally, your relationships die.

Apart from God, financially, money trumps.

Apart from God, vocationally, you will not know the reason for your existence.

“Apart from Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5b, NASB). Nada. Zip.

Deceived. Betrayed. Bullied. Ignored. Rejected. Threatened. Unloved. Alone. Manipulated. Criticized. Abused. Home foreclosure. Homeless. Bankruptcy. Divorce. Penniless.

I voiced and exposed the truth. Then I stepped out from the skin of self-sufficiency and it tugged and tore until I walked out of its clutches. “Apart from Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5b, NASB). A life-death-life transformation through the resurrection power of Jesus is possible. What are you trying apart from God?

In what area are you living apart from God?
When will you die to your self-sufficiency?
How will you sow this verse into your life? Verbalize it. Sing it. Repeat it.

Without God, life will not work.

ACT! Mother’s Day coupon for all women. 15% off a package for 4 coaching sessions, via phone. A savings of $48.00. Your cost only, $272.00. Payment plans are available! MUST Contact Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com by May 15th to schedule sessions!

What’s your excuse?

March 23, 2017Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin FEAR, Life Purpose

What’s your excuse?

Did you know we can make excuses to stay away from what God has put in our hearts to do? We avoid doing what we know we are to be doing. Why do we do this?

Our answers might vary, but I am certain fear would be in the top three answers and then lies, such as, I can’t, I am not good enough, it’s too hard, or I don’t know how. But, the thing is, if it’s God’s will for us, we’re to be about doing it. I doubt the call, the pull, the tug, on your heart is going to go away. I know. Mine never did.

So this is how I can avoid or self-sabotage what God has called me to do. My office contains a couple of tall and very full bookshelves. Books are my tools and my love. If you go to Pinterest you can see a part of my library there. https://www.pinterest.com/darlenealarson/ Feel free to follow my boards on Pinterest.

Plus, one of my raw strengths is that I’m a learner. I love to chew on something new each day. Matter of fact I can tell when I have not learned. So the way I can stop writing, is to read. Yep, so easy for me to do. And reading is good for me and for you.

I think I am currently reading 10 books. I have them in every room of the house. Now, do you see how easy it would be for me to say, I think I need to go read one more book today, therefore, I just do not have time to write.

AVOIDANCE!

And then a coach friend of mine mentioned this one book. I thought it sounded interesting, so I ordered it and I began to read it. I had no joy reading it. It didn’t thrill me. Matter of fact it did not even move me. And I have never finished that book. I know what was going on.

I felt very uncomfortable. God was convicting me…stop your reading and get writing. Your books are not going to get written if you just keep picking up books. So since that time I have really paid attention to when I read. And I must say my reading has slowed way down. And now I miss writing if I don’t get to it each day.

So what is it you avoid and yet you feel called to do? ________________________________
What do you do instead? ______________________________________________________
How can you step towards what you know you are to do…just a baby step.
1. I will begin ____________________________________
2. I will tell (someone) my goal __________________________.
3. By this time (date) I will have this much done or have attempted this______________________________________________.

STEP towards the call!

Do you have a question?

November 10, 2016Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Life Coaching, Recycle the Pain, Relationships

I am back answering questions(?)from women- as a Life Coach. I let this go in 2016 while I wrote Stretch-marks, Learning to heal from worldly hurts.

I have coached women for ten years. And women have entrusted me with their stories. I view that as a high honor and I hold their stories in my heart as precious gems. Thank you if you are one of the ladies I have coached.

Email me your question and I will not share your name unless you want me to. I will be answering these in my monthly newsletter. Join my readers at https://www.heartswithapurpose.com .

Thank you, ahead. Here is the list so far.

How do I set boundaries?
Time management, how do I carve some stuff out of my life?
Time management, how do I find time to read my Bible?
What is emotional abuse?
What defines domestic violence?
I’m a Mom and I want so much much good for my kids.But, I can’t be their JOY giver. How do I let go of not wanting to disappoint them? I don’t want them to hurt emotionally, so how can I keep that from happening?
How do I love well?
I’m stuck and can’t get going forward in my life?
I want more from my life, but I don’t know where to start?
HELP, I am so lonely. What can I do?
Is it worth the effort to change me?

What is the benefit of having a lifeplan facilitated?

October 31, 2016Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Enable me, Lord, to shift, Life Coaching, Life Purpose, Recycle the Pain

Clarity
Focus
Life Purpose Revealed
Action plan set up to impact every domain of your life!
Balance
Your stories come together!
You were heard.
Peace
Joy
Passion to live!

Now what is a LifePlan? It is a two day intensive interview with a woman one on one—about her life. You discuss childhood, family, friends, high school, college, dreams, marriage, deaths, divorce, the bad, the good, the ugly, values, spiritual gifts, the strongholds, the roadblocks—you get the picture.

A client said, “In September 2016, I drove 3-1/2 hours for my two day LifePlan with Darlene. I had worked hard at not setting expectations. I wanted to stay open and receptive to the experience. But, honestly … deep down … I really didn’t expect much. After all, I know myself pretty well. I’ve done a lot of therapy work, inventory work, journaling, retreats, etc. I didn’t think there was much more I could learn about me. I was just doing this as a requirement for my Life Coach certification. Boy, was I ever wrong! What happened in those two days was nothing short of amazing and inspirational. Darlene walked me through my life – from beginning to present. For the first time ever, I saw the whole picture. I saw how all the pieces fit together and that God’s grace and mercy was the glue. I went in questioning my purpose. And, I came out clear as a bell. I left with new determination, new confidence, and a renewed faith in God. I also left with a comprehensive, action-oriented, realistic three-year plan for achieving my goals and the desires of my heart. I believe everyone should go through this experience as least once in their lifetime. The benefits are truly amazing. Thanks, Darlene!” Nanci

Be ready to move out in your life purpose. Contact Darlene to book your 2017 LifePlan, Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com You will not be sorry you did!

What is your motive?

May 26, 2016Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Living Freely in Truth

Character may be manifested in the great moments,

but it is made in the small ones.

Phillips Brooks

There was a time in my life I wondered if God saw me.

If He saw me clean the toilets?

If He saw my load of responsibilities, yet not allowed any authority?

If He saw me make the meals, only to be criticized?

If He saw the way I was spoken to?

If He saw the way I was ignored?

If He saw how I kept up the house?

If He saw the daily grunt work I performed?

If He saw all that I did, yet, all the evil things that were done to me?

And I chose to run to this verse, “For God is not unjust so as to forget your work and the love which you have shown toward His name, in having ministered and in still ministering to the saints.” Hebrews 6:10

Let God repay in His way and in His timing!

Our job if we so choose is to grow in the difficult junk in life and put into practice the daily grunt work that we do not get applause for, while we seek first His kingdom. That is where TRUE character is formed, when we work to please Jesus, without an audience, and know full well Jesus will not forget.

**Bottom line, what is your motive, why do you do, what you do?**

Darlene, what do you do?

April 7, 2016Posted by darlene@heartswithapurpose.comin Abuse, Enable me, Lord, to shift, Life Purpose

What do you do, Darlene?

As the founder of Hearts with a Purpose, I coach and inspire women that are frustrated, angry, and alienated, because of toxic individuals so they can regain a sense of control and create a life of purpose.

Six Reasons -Why Life Coaching Works with Coach Darlene?

Wow, I did it. The faceting room is 85% uncluttered. I am so excited. It feels really good. Thank you so much for hearing me and encouraging me. Barb

You are a gift. LaRissa

By the way, I wanted to tell you that I watched your videos and enjoyed them very much! Finally, a BIG THANK-YOU for being willing to hear my heart! What an amazing gift you have! I am honored to be heard by you! BEV

What is stopping you? Take a step, your life is zipping by. Email!

There are four major things I believe women desire and I am certain there are more,

but these four I think run up to the top of her ladder of life.

She desires:

Security

Love

Help

Companionship

People, jobs, homes, bodies, children, you name it.

And Malachi 3:6 in the NASB says,“For I, the Lord, do not change;.” Jesus is the same, constant, changeless, loving, faithful Son of God. Day in and day out.

Are you craving more from life then CHAOS?

Tired of the crazy makers and confusion that brew from abuse?

Are you confused how to handle a toxic relationship?

Do you care so much that your heart hurts?

JOIN a Summer Course that will help you begin to step!

Learn how to take back your life.

Join me, as I teach women how to walk away from toxic influence.

Class ONE – Step back. Assess your situation! Breathe and share with a Coach that has walked the journey! I hold women’s hearts carefully and lovingly.

Be taught by a teacher and life coach that is an expert in the field of toxicity or abuse.

What will happen if you do not begin to take action by the end of this month? Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to save your seat today!

Receive instruction, abuse insight, coaching class time, one private coaching email after each class, curriculum material, and learn how to BEGIN to walk away from toxic influence. Enjoy this mental and emotional life saving course, on sale for more than 60% off, $ 227.00.Valued at $640.00.

Class time is June 12th. 26th. July 10th, 17th, 24th, 7:00 p.m.- 8:00 EST Meet over a conference call for class! Email Darlene@heartswithapurpose.com to save your seat today!

Answer yes or no.

Apart from Me you can do nothing.

(John 15:5b, NASB)

I needed God to turn my life around. And He is known for switchbacks, just read the book of Esther. Or study the life of Peter, Saul then Paul, Abraham and Sarah, or the man that hung on the cross, Jesus.

I pressed that much more into Truth. And the Holy Spirit nudged me to the feeding trough of His Word daily, even when I didn’t feel God near. Lovingly and gently He went to work while I lived in an emotional abusive marriage for a very long time.

(READ the blog on what is emotional abuse.) https://heartswithapurpose.com/what-do-emotional-abuse-and-narcissism-have-in-common/

I loved my privacy and self-sufficiency above God. The idols and sin had to go.

Convicted, I dropped and bowed to Him. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Bitterness. Hatred. Jealousy. Self-righteousness. People pleasing. Perfectionism. Negativity. Criticalness. Fear GALORE. AND PRIDE. I confessed and let go.

Apart from God, spiritually, you’re an empty being.

Apart from God, mentally, you’re deceived.

Apart from God, emotionally, your feelings dominate.

Apart from God, physically, you veg in a mess of laziness.

Apart from God, relationally, your relationships die.

Apart from God, financially, money trumps.

Apart from God, vocationally, you will not know the reason for your existence.

“Apart from Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5b, NASB). Nada. Zip.

Deceived. Betrayed. Bullied. Ignored. Rejected. Threatened. Unloved. Alone. Manipulated. Criticized. Abused. Home foreclosure. Homeless. Bankruptcy. Divorce. Penniless.

ACT! Mother’s Day coupon for all women. 15% off a package for 4 coaching sessions, via phone. A savings of $48.00. Your cost only, $272.00. Payment plans are available! MUST Contact Darlene@Heartswithapurpose.com by May 15th to schedule sessions!

What’s your excuse?

Did you know we can make excuses to stay away from what God has put in our hearts to do? We avoid doing what we know we are to be doing. Why do we do this?

Plus, one of my raw strengths is that I’m a learner. I love to chew on something new each day. Matter of fact I can tell when I have not learned. So the way I can stop writing, is to read. Yep, so easy for me to do. And reading is good for me and for you.

I think I am currently reading 10 books. I have them in every room of the house. Now, do you see how easy it would be for me to say, I think I need to go read one more book today, therefore, I just do not have time to write.

AVOIDANCE!

And then a coach friend of mine mentioned this one book. I thought it sounded interesting, so I ordered it and I began to read it. I had no joy reading it. It didn’t thrill me. Matter of fact it did not even move me. And I have never finished that book. I know what was going on.

So what is it you avoid and yet you feel called to do? ________________________________

What do you do instead? ______________________________________________________

How can you step towards what you know you are to do…just a baby step.

I will begin ____________________________________

I will tell (someone) my goal __________________________.

By this time (date) I will have this much done or have attempted this______________________________________________.

STEP towards the call!

I am back answering questions(?)from women- as a Life Coach. I let this go in 2016 while I wrote Stretch-marks, Learning to heal from worldly hurts.

I have coached women for ten years. And women have entrusted me with their stories. I view that as a high honor and I hold their stories in my heart as precious gems. Thank you if you are one of the ladies I have coached.

Email me your question and I will not share your name unless you want me to. I will be answering these in my monthly newsletter. Join my readers at https://www.heartswithapurpose.com .

Thank you, ahead. Here is the list so far.

How do I set boundaries?

Time management, how do I carve some stuff out of my life?

Time management, how do I find time to read my Bible?

What is emotional abuse?

What defines domestic violence?

I’m a Mom and I want so much much good for my kids.But, I can’t be their JOY giver. How do I let go of not wanting to disappoint them? I don’t want them to hurt emotionally, so how can I keep that from happening?

How do I love well?

I’m stuck and can’t get going forward in my life?

I want more from my life, but I don’t know where to start?

HELP, I am so lonely. What can I do?

Is it worth the effort to change me?

Clarity

Focus

Life Purpose Revealed

Action plan set up to impact every domain of your life!

Balance

Your stories come together!

You were heard.

Peace

And Malachi 3:6 in the NASB says,^“For I, the Lord, do not change;.” Jesus is the same, constant, changeless, loving, faithful Son of God. Day in and day out.

**Bottom line, what is your motive, why do you do, what you do?**